6 Reasons Relationships End

1. Being Addicted to Passionate Love Instead of Compassionate Love

Passionate love is what we recognize as the honeymoon phase. It is the stage where you begin to date and every little thing feels amazing. The next stage of a relationship is compassionate love. This is the kind of love that married couples have which stems from being in a relationship for a long period of time. It is the stage we may recognize as being "comfortable" because now the couple has learned more about one another and the flame has sort of simmered down. Teenagers are often unaware of these two different stages so when they go from one phase to the next, there is often that, "OMG I am falling out of love" reaction. That is simply not true. It is just a different stage. Passionate love is addicting because it is associated with that "I have butterflies" feeling but most people who are dependent on it usually cannot hold long term relationships and are what society would term as being "promiscuous" or "slutty." 


2. Selfishness

Every girl deserves to be a little selfish in my opinion, but when it is always "me, me, and MORE ME" that gets exhausting for guys to handle. And visa versa. Selfishness in relationships are what usually leads to fights because one or more partners may feel taken advantage of or have the sense of a loss of control. If you are selfish and tend to always do what you want to do on dates, your boyfriend or girlfriend may simply get bored. Or they may feel that you do not care about their interests at all and you will end up not learning very much about them in the longrun.


3. Cheating

If you have cheating tendencies, first of all you should not be in a relationship. Second, if you cheat and still want to be in the relationship with that poor girl or guy, most psychologists agree that you should not tell them what you did. Most people just can't get over it and they will probably end the relationship. Congrats, now you do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend cause you were dumb. You deserve to keep that guilt to yourself and pray to holy jesus that no one will tell them about it later. Cheating will kill that other person's self esteem and they will develop trust issues later on in the relationship IF they chose to continue on with the relationship. They will also bring trust issues into any future relationships. Statistically relationships that begin with affairs will not last. Just honestly, don't do it. And don't put yourself in a place in the first place that you may be tempted to cheat. Also if you are the person who is responsible for playing the role of the mistress and ending a healthy relationship cause you were selfish or just wanted to fool around, you should just go die and you deserve to be cheated on in your next relationship and be alone forever.


4. Not Making Time for One Another

I honestly don't care if you've been in a relationship for a month or five years, you still have to put in the effort to make your significant other feel special. Most of the time when people are tempted to cheat, it is probably because they feel so utterly ignored or unappreciated. It is just a very sad time when someone has to admit that they fooled around because they were desperate for you to notice them. Or felt so unloved they had to find it elsewhere. We all have friends that we want to hang out with, but your relationship is what takes the most amount of time to develop. Your girlfriend or boyfriend should be one of your top prioritizes if you see a future with them because one day you will have to live under one roof and practicing being together for long periods of time can make that transition easier. Schedule in dates no matter how busy you may be and prioritize for one another. Otherwise you'll let your relationship grow old and boring & no one wants that.


5. No Communication

If you do not know how to communicate, you are going to have a hard time in any relationship you try to build. Nobody knows if you were mad cause "your boyfriend talked to that attractive girl you hated at that party two weeks ago." Guys are so oblivious this by the way because men tend to be bad at taking small hints. Couples need to learn how to communicate because being too passive and holding things in will lead to resentment in the long run and cause a feeling of helplessness. Communication is what will make a relationship last.


6. Lack of Love

Not everyone is capable of loving someone and "true" love is actually very hard to find. In my opinion, all you have to do to keep a relationship going is to love one another. The best kind of relationship is when it just feels easy. Love makes a relationship last.